Some spiritual writers describe a difference between being “awake” and being “unconscious”, meaning living with awareness or on autopilot. In truth, everyone moves between these states many times a day. These eight contrasts are a mirror, not a way to judge people.
1. Noticing feelings or being swept away
In aware moments, we notice our feelings as they arise. On autopilot, we may only notice them after we’ve reacted.
2. Listening or waiting to speak
Awareness helps us really listen. On autopilot, we often plan our reply instead.
3. Choosing or reacting
Awareness gives us a moment to choose our response.
4. Present or elsewhere
Aware moments are rooted in the present. On autopilot, our minds often drift to the past or future.
5. Curious or certain
Awareness brings curiosity. Autopilot tends toward fixed opinions.
6. Generous or keeping score
Aware moments make it easier to give without expecting something back.
7. Connected or separate
Awareness can bring a sense of connection with others and with nature.
8. Kind to yourself or harsh
Awareness includes noticing your own struggles with kindness.
No one is fully awake
These aren’t two types of people. Tired, busy or grieving people aren’t failing. Everyone has moments of both.
How little is enough
Choose one of these eight contrasts and notice it in yourself today, gently.
For more, read 18 things a self-aware person does without realizing it.
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