Most of us experience ourselves as separate individuals, distinct from other people and the world around us. Many spiritual traditions suggest that this sense of separateness is only part of the picture, and that we’re more connected than we realise.

The useful self

Having a sense of self is useful. It helps you make choices, keep promises and care for your body. There’s nothing wrong with being an individual.

Many roles

During a single day, you might be a worker, a parent, a friend, a neighbour. These roles are part of life, but none of them is the whole of you.

Connection beneath the surface

Some people find that when they feel less separate, compassion comes more naturally. Noticing how much we depend on one another, for food, shelter and love, can soften the feeling of being alone.

Balance, not erasing

Feeling connected doesn’t mean losing yourself. You can feel part of something larger while still having boundaries and caring for your own needs.

A gentle practice

At your next meal, think of the many people who helped bring it to your table: farmers, drivers, shopkeepers, cooks. It’s a simple way to feel connected.

How little is enough

At your next meal, take a moment to think of three people who helped bring it to you.

For more, read 4 signs your ego is dissolving.

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