Letting go is one of life’s most important skills, and one of the hardest. Whether it’s a worry, an outcome you can’t control or a hope that didn’t work out, holding on too tightly can leave you tense and tired.
Here are five gentle tricks to help you practise the art of letting go.
1. Name what you’re gripping
Start by noticing what you’re holding on to. I’m gripping this outcome. I’m holding on to how this should go. Naming it, kindly, can loosen its hold.
2. Talk to someone
Sharing a worry with a friend or family member can make it feel lighter. They may offer a fresh perspective, or simply listen. You don’t have to figure everything out on your own.
3. Shift your attention
The more we think about something, the bigger it can seem. When you notice yourself going over the same worry, gently move your attention to something present: your breath, your feet on the floor, the task in front of you.
4. Remember that a delay is just a delay
When things don’t happen as quickly as you’d like, it’s easy to feel frustrated. A delay doesn’t mean something will never happen. Sometimes waiting gives us time to prepare, learn or see things differently.
5. Speak to yourself kindly
In stressful times, gentle self-talk can help. Try phrases like, I’ve done what I can. I can let the rest unfold. I’ll handle what comes.
Letting go isn’t giving up
Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring or stop trying. It means doing your part and then releasing what you can’t control. It’s an act of trust and self-care.
How little is enough
Choose one thing you’re holding on to this week. Each time it comes to mind, take a slow breath and say, I’ve done what I can.
For more, read 3 important things to remember when your life changes.
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