As people grow spiritually, some old habits may start to loosen. They don’t disappear completely. They’re part of being human. But they may take up less of your day.

Here are six things that can loosen over time.

Harsh judgement

You may find yourself judging others less harshly, perhaps noticing that what bothers you in others sometimes reflects something in yourself.

Comparison

Others’ successes may sting less. You can feel a pang and still be happy for them.

Worry

Worries may still visit, but you might find it easier to notice them without being swept away. Anxiety that lingers isn’t a spiritual failing.

Anger that runs you

Anger is still information. You may simply notice it sooner, before it takes over.

Performing for others

You may feel less need to be who others want you to be.

Fear of failure

Mistakes may feel less like proof that you’re a failure, and more like part of learning.

Not a finish line

These changes come and go. Some days old habits will feel strong again. That’s normal.

How little is enough

Choose one of these six areas and notice it gently this week.

For more, read Has spirituality become another egotistical identity?.

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