In twin flame communities, people sometimes describe a “runner and chaser” pattern: one person pulls away while the other pursues. Whatever words you use, this pattern can be painful. Here are some gentle ideas.
Notice the pattern
Pulling away and pursuing can happen in any relationship. Noticing the pattern is a first step.
Stop waiting
Waiting for someone to return can put your life on hold. You deserve a full life now, whether or not they come back.
Respect their choices
If someone chooses to leave, that’s their decision. Respecting it can be hard, but it’s also freeing.
Care for yourself
Spend time with people who care about you. Rest, eat well and do things you enjoy.
Union isn’t fate
No spiritual idea should keep you in a situation that hurts you. Healthy relationships are mutual and respectful.
How little is enough
Today, do one thing just for yourself that has nothing to do with the relationship.
For more, read How to tell if a relationship is karmic, soulmate or twin flame..
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