Every relationship is unique. But many lasting relationships share some common qualities. Here are a few that couples often mention.
Respect
Respect means valuing your partner as a person, including their opinions, boundaries and feelings. Speaking about each other kindly, even when apart, is a good sign.
Honest communication
Talking openly, especially about difficult things, helps you understand each other. Good communication includes listening, not only speaking.
Room to be yourselves
Healthy relationships allow each person space for friends, hobbies and time alone. How that looks will vary from couple to couple.
Small kindnesses
Little gestures, like making a cup of tea, saying thank you or sharing a laugh, can keep a relationship warm.
Working through conflict
All couples disagree. What matters is how you handle it: calmly, fairly and with a willingness to repair.
Shared values
You don’t need to like all the same things, but sharing some core values can help you build a life together.
Every relationship is different
There’s no single formula. What works for one couple may not work for another. Kindness, honesty and respect are good places to start.
How little is enough
Today, do one small kind thing for someone you love.
For more, read The difference between being in love and falling in love.
For a quiet place to write your way through this season, you’ll find a guided journal on the Guides page.