The Difference Between Being in Love and Falling in Love
Love is a complicated thing, it comes in many different forms and is a lot more painful than most other things. We tend to confuse a lot of things for love and I guess that is one of our biggest faults.
Being ‘in love’ is a lot different from just loving someone. It is something that does not happen nearly as often as we think it does and leads us down some pretty disastrous roads. We might fall in love with a few different people throughout our lifetimes and we might never truly fall for anyone, that varies from person to person.
When we love we rarely do so in the manner we should. We are capable of giving so much more than we do. You see, the problem with falling in love is that you will fall out of love sometimes as well.
When we fall in love with someone and truly love them falling out of love is not possible. Our love is something that happens after all the fun has died down and the ‘honeymoon’ phase is over. It is accepting that person for who he or she is and it is moving forward with them through the good the bad and the ugly.
When we truly love someone their flaws will not be flaws. When we truly love someone we allow them to become a real part of who we are. We grow with them and feel safe in their presence.
You see when we do not truly love someone, and we begin falling out of love with them everything within the relationship changes. We drive wedges between one another and we don’t focus on the positive sides of well, anything. Sadly, in situations like that usually, one person is pulling away while the other is struggling to cling on.
Real genuine love is not something everyone finds in a partner and it is not something that can be summed up in few words. This is a kind of love that our world does not see often. Love is being able to stick by someone’s side even when it is almost impossible to do so. It is focusing on experiencing one another in all possible ways and being able to open up completely.
When you truly love someone you don’t have to figure out how to say things or force yourself to sit down and talk through your problems. You do these things automatically without even having to think about it. Everything operates smoothly and you are both on the same page.
Sure, we might want to believe that all the couples in this world are in love, but that just isn’t realistic now, is it? Sometimes people end up together for reasons that have nothing to do with love at all. While I am in no way bashing those people I do think they deserve real love. They should go out and find it whether they are going to do so or not.
Love is painful, hard to face, confusing, overwhelming, and so much more. It is making sure your needs and the needs of this other person are met. It is going above and beyond to put a smile on that person’s face time and time again. It is a rollercoaster of emotions and a whirlwind of surprise.
Just because it is rare doesn’t mean it cannot be found. While most people never actually find love like this or love in this way we are all capable. Do not settle when it comes to partner’s, if love is what you seek, find it.