People often talk about “falling in love” and “being in love” as if they’re the same thing. Many people find it helpful to think of them as two different experiences.
Falling in love
Falling in love is often exciting and intense. You think about the other person constantly, and everything feels new. It’s a wonderful feeling, but it often changes over time.
Being in love
Being in love tends to be steadier. It grows through shared experiences, ups and downs and choosing each other day after day. It includes accepting each other’s flaws.
Both are valuable
Neither is better than the other. Falling in love can be the beginning of something lasting. Being in love can include moments of renewed excitement.
Love takes care
Lasting love isn’t always smooth. Couples who stay close often keep talking, keep showing kindness and work through difficulties together.
Love and self-respect
Loving someone doesn’t mean accepting harm. Healthy love includes respect and safety for both people.
How little is enough
Today, tell someone you love one thing you appreciate about them.
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