Some people believe in “soul groups”, souls who share a deep bond and recognise each other across life. Whether or not you hold this belief, many of us have met people who feel like kindred spirits.
Here are ten signs you may have found a kindred spirit.
1. You feel at ease
Being with them feels natural, as if you’ve known them for years.
2. They reflect you
They help you see yourself more clearly, including your strengths.
3. They encourage your growth
They support you in becoming more of who you are.
4. You feel balanced
Time with them leaves you feeling calmer and steadier.
5. You learn from each other
You each teach the other something, like patience, courage or humour.
6. They notice when you need care
They gently notice when something’s wrong.
7. Ideas flow
Conversations are lively and creative.
8. They show up at the right time
They seem to appear when you need a friend.
9. You share values
You care about similar things, even if your lives look different.
10. You support each other’s dreams
You’re each other’s cheerleaders.
Every connection matters
You don’t need a special label for meaningful relationships. Kindness toward everyone, not only kindred spirits, enriches life.
How little is enough
Send a message to someone who feels like a kindred spirit, letting them know you appreciate them.
For more, read The philosophy of love.
When you’re ready to go a little deeper, the Guides page has a guided journal for walking through change at your own pace.