Many of us put parts of our lives on hold. We tell ourselves we’ll start living fully once we’ve reached the next phase, once things are perfect or once the right person comes along.

Sometimes waiting is wise. You might be caring for someone, recovering from illness or managing a tight budget. But sometimes waiting becomes a habit that stops us from enjoying the life we have now.

Here are four common ways we put life on hold, and gentle ways to start living now.

1. After the next phase

Once I’ve finished this course, changed jobs or moved house, then I’ll relax. But there’s always another phase.

Try this: Choose one thing you enjoy and make room for it this week, even in a small way.

2. After it’s perfect

Waiting for perfect circumstances can mean waiting forever. Good enough is often a fine place to start.

Try this: Take one small step toward something you’ve been putting off, even if conditions aren’t ideal.

3. After the right person

You don’t need a partner to enjoy travel, cook a lovely meal or build a home you love.

Try this: Do one thing you’ve been saving to do with someone else.

4. After the last chapter ends

Sometimes we feel we can’t move on until we’ve fully made peace with the past. Healing takes time, and it’s okay to carry some sadness while still taking steps forward.

Try this: Allow yourself one moment of joy this week, alongside whatever else you’re feeling.

This moment counts

Your life is happening now, in ordinary moments: a morning coffee, a conversation, a walk. These moments are worth noticing and enjoying.

If low feelings stay heavy for a long while, please reach out for support; you don’t have to carry it alone.

How little is enough

Today, do one small thing you’ve been saving for “someday”.

For more, read 15 reasons why you should live with intention.

If writing helps you make sense of change, there’s a short guided journal waiting on the Guides page.