Holding onto a grudge can feel heavy. Forgiveness is one way some people find to set that weight down. It isn’t a fix for everything, and it can’t be rushed, but many people find it brings a sense of relief.

What forgiveness is

Forgiveness means letting go of resentment toward someone who hurt you. It doesn’t mean excusing what happened, forgetting it or reconciling with the person.

What forgiveness isn’t

You don’t owe anyone forgiveness. You don’t have to feel grateful for harm. And it’s okay to still feel angry sometimes.

Why it can feel lighter

Some research suggests that letting go of resentment is linked with lower stress for some people. Many simply find that they think about the hurt less often.

Forgiveness takes time

It’s often a gradual process, not a single decision.

Forgiving yourself

Forgiving yourself for mistakes can be just as important as forgiving others.

How little is enough

Write down one small resentment you’d like to loosen your grip on, when you’re ready.

For more, read How to let go of the past, move on, and live a happy life.

When you’re ready to go a little deeper, the Guides page has a guided journal for walking through change at your own pace.