When a relationship ends, it can leave behind strong feelings: sadness, anger, longing or regret. Letting go takes time, and there’s no right way to do it. Here are some gentle ideas that may help.
Allow your feelings
It’s natural to feel hurt, even long after a relationship ends. Let yourself feel what you feel, without judging it.
You don’t have to forget
Letting go doesn’t mean erasing the past. The relationship was part of your life. You can remember it while slowly loosening its hold on you.
Harm isn’t a lesson you owed
If someone hurt you, that harm wasn’t your fault, and you don’t have to see it as a gift. You may learn things over time, but that doesn’t make the hurt okay.
Create some distance
Limiting contact, or taking a break from social media, can give your heart space to heal.
Lean on others
Spending time with friends and family can remind you that you’re loved and supported.
Look forward gently
When you’re ready, try something new, such as a hobby, a class or a trip. New experiences can help you build a life that feels like yours.
Be patient
Healing has no timetable. Some days will feel easier than others.
How little is enough
Write down one thing you’d like to do for yourself this week, just because it makes you feel good.
For more, read How to let go of the past, move on, and live a happy life.
If you’d like a gentle companion for finding your way through change, there’s a guided journal for it on the Guides page.