Emotional intelligence, the ability to understand and manage our own emotions and recognise others’ feelings, can support a happier, more balanced life. Here are four strategies that emotionally aware people often use.
1. Know what you feel
Emotionally aware people notice their feelings and what triggers them. They tend to avoid harsh self-criticism, and they remind themselves of their strengths when things are hard.
Try this: At the end of the day, name one feeling you had and what caused it.
2. Practise compassion
Caring about others, and wishing them well, can bring a deep sense of connection and meaning. Compassion includes kindness toward yourself too.
Try this: Silently wish someone well today, perhaps a stranger you pass.
3. Pause before reacting
When emotions run high, emotionally aware people often take a moment before responding. This helps them act in line with their values.
Try this: Next time you feel a strong reaction, take one slow breath before speaking.
4. Choose supportive company
The people around us affect our mood. Spending time with people who lift you up, and setting boundaries with those who drain you, can help you feel happier.
Try this: Make plans with someone who makes you feel good.
Happiness isn’t constant
Even emotionally aware people have hard days. These strategies aren’t about being happy all the time. They’re about meeting life’s ups and downs with more understanding.
How little is enough
Choose one of these four strategies and practise it once today.
For more, read 6 signs of low emotional intelligence and how it distorts your perception & behavior.
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