Sometimes you find yourself way to close to a situation and emotional release and detachment are the only answers.
It is possible that you hear the words Emotional Release and Detachment it causes you a feeling of coldness and selfishness.
Nothing is further from the reality. The word detachment, when understood within the context of personal growth, withholds a precious inner value that all of us must learn to develop.
Practicing detachment does not mean giving up everything that is important to us or breaking affective bonds or personal relationships with those that are part of our daily lives. “Detachment means knowing how to love, appreciate, and engage in relationships with a more balanced and healthy view, freeing yourself from the excesses that trap you.”
The emotional release allows us to be living more honestly, according to our own needs: To Grow, advance wisely, without harming anyone and at the same time, not letting anyone limit you.
Here we have the 4 Laws of Detachment for Emotional Release.
Should we practice them?
Law of Emotional Release and Detachment #1: You are responsible for yourself
No one can live for you. No one can breathe for you, no one can volunteer to bear your sorrows, or feel your pain. You are the engineer of your own life, and every step you take is an important one in your walk.
So the first law you should keep in mind to practice detachment is to have come aware that you are entirely responsible for yourself.
Do not blame others for your happiness. Do not imagine that to be happy you need to find the ideal partner or have the recognition of your whole family.You are enough.
If you fantasize about the opinion of others being your measure of satisfaction and happiness, you will achieve nothing but suffering. Others will almost never meet our needs. Cultivate your own happiness, be responsible, mature, be aware of your choices and consequences and never let your well-being depend on the opinion of others.
Law of Emotional Release and Detachment #2: Live in the present, accept and assume your reality
Many times, we can’t admit that nothing in this life is eternal, that nothing remains the same; everything flows and resumes its own path. Many people are still focused on what happened in the past, and it becomes a massive burden we carry in the present life.
Even if it is painful, accept it. Try to realize the past is gone and learn to forgive. This will make you feel freer and will help you focus on what really matters: “the here and now.” Free yourself from the burdens of the past. There is no future in the past!
Law of Emotional Release and Detachment #3: Free yourself and let others also be free
“Realize that freedom is the most full, complete and healthy way to enjoy and understand life in all its immensity.” Being free does not prevent us from creating bonds with others. Forming relationships, loving others and being loved is part of our process of personal growth.
Detachment means that you should never take responsibility for the lives of others, that they cannot impose your principles on you or even try to arrest you. This is how problems of relationship and suffering arise.
Exaggerated attachments and emotional co-dependency are never healthy. We have the example of parents obsessed with the protection of their children, who prevent them from growing and advancing with confidence to explore the world.
The need to detach is fundamental in such cases; each one must step outside their security limits to face the unforeseen and the unknown.
Law of Emotional Release and Detachment #4: The losses will happen sooner or later
We must accept that, in this life, nothing lasts forever. Life, relationships, even material possessions vanish like smoke, escaping through an open window or sliding through our fingers.
People go away, children grow up, some friends go away, and we lose some loves. All this is part of the practical learning of the art of detachment. We have to learn that this is normal and face this situation with tranquility, courage, and poise.
What you can never change is your ability to love. Always start by loving yourself.